Masturbation Coaching
I love masturbation. It is one beautiful aspect of the relationship I have with myself. I find a lot of joy and healing in spending erotic time with my own body.
I would like that for you too. If you want it.
Masturbation is special.
It is the one place where our pleasure is central without the needs or gaze of another person present. The relationship we have with our bodies is the one relationship we have for the entirety of our lives.
We get told many lies about masturbation because we live in a sex negative culture. Beyond that, one of the ways that patriarchy, capitalism, and white supremacy maintain power is by creating conditions and enforcing conditions for us to be disconnected from our bodies.
What if you could touch yourself in just the way you wanted? What if you had the tools to listen to what your body needed and the space to give that to yourself? Imagine having the knowlege to bring touch, breath, movement, fantasy, and erotic media… in whatever combination feels best to you… to make your body sing.
Whether you have been masturbating since you were young or have never before touched your genitals on purpose, coaching can be for you. Each session will be crafted around your unique intentions and goals.
What can be included in sessions:
Lessons on anatomy and different parts of your body.
Unpacking shame around masturbation.
Learning how to map sensation in your genitals.
Discussing use of toys.
Naming stories about masturbation and creating new ones aligned with your values.
Witnessing.
Creating ritual containers for solo practice.
Processing grief and stuck emotions using erotic energy.
Generating fantasies to use during solo play.
Adjusting ergonomics to better meet the needs of your body.
Defining what masturbation, pleasure practice, self-love, getting off mean to you.
Celebrating new discoveries and avenues of pleasure.
Learning breathwork patterns and mindful masturbation techniques.
Curious about how masturbation coaching could increase
your access to embodied pleasure?
Testimonials
Masturbation coaching with Jess was profoundly moving, insightful, pleasurable and practically very useful in helping come into connection with my body and pleasure. Jess has a great sense of humour, and is a delightful mix of warmth, compassion and wisdom. Her big heart and loving spirit helped me touch into tender aspects of my sexuality and I loved that she was equally game to join me in the dark, crass shadowlands of my sexual play and desires. I would recommend coaching with Jess for anyone who wants to explore deeper into the galaxy of your body's possibilities for pleasure.
— S. Anderson
I saw Jess for a session to integrate some sexual discoveries around my queer identity and it was incredibly helfpul. First, she listened with such compassion, openness and understanding. I felt very seen by her, and very safe in the space. Before the session, it was definitely a stretch for me to think about masturbating in front of someone in a therapeutic context, and going into my work with Jess I didn't think I'd be comfortable doing that. After talking with Jess, though, the session very naturally moved into this. It was amazing to feel like I could explore my sexuality - and, more importantly, the messages that came from my body when I did that - in front of another person in a therapeutic way. Jess was incredibly professional. She witnessed me, and guided me into listening to my body's insights and messages, and she had such strong and beautiful boundaries in the way she participated in this process with me. I in no way felt like Jess was sexualizing or eroticizing my process - I simply felt witnessed and guided. It was profound, and the messages I received from my body supported me in accepting new pieces of my identity. Jess has a rare gift for being able to hold this type of space professionally, and I so strongly recommend her services to anyone who would like to integrate and explore their sexuality.
— E.L.
As a sex worker, I pride myself in my skill and capacity to support to my clients' pleasure -- and in that service role, I occaisionally lose touch with my own desires, or put my pleasure on the backburner. I had an intense work tour coming up and decided to do a series of Masturbation coaching sessions with Jess to intentionally honour and reconnect with my body and prepare myself for the trip. I'm so glad I did this, it was such a gift! I learned new things about my body's arousal patterns that were helpful in working with my clients. I also experienced whole new levels of pleasure in my sessions with clients, thanks to taking the time to really honour my body and desires on my own terms, with Jess' support.
— Aurora May
What better way to learn about pleasure and being sexually creative? We don’t have to perform or meet anyone else’s standards, to satisfy the needs of a partner, or to fear criticism or rejection for failure.
~ Betty Dodson